
When I was a little girl, one of my mother's closest friends - a charming and extraordinary woman I love dearly - was married to a man who regularly abused her both physically and emotionally. As I was growing up, every once in a while I would ask her why she was still with this man. She had lots of excuses but never a good answer, not one that made much sense to me anyway. A recurring theme seemed to be 'his outstanding intellect'... He made her believe he was so much better than her. A few years back she finally left him but even now she's still in close contact with him. She spent the best years of her life with a man who made her intensely miserable!
Ever since, I've met a number of other women who have chosen to spend long periods of their lives, sometimes all their lives, with men who systematically hurt them. Men who cheat, lie and constantly manipulate them into believing it is all somehow the woman's fault. I've often wondered what makes it so hard for these women to walk away from their dysfunctional relationships.
As you can imagine, I've been planning this painting for a long time, it was always going to be a subject matter in my Undercurrents series. A few months ago however I got my hands on a new novel about psychopathic seduction by the art critic and author Claudia Moscovici and things suddenly fell into place. The seducer will initially shower his victims with love, only to take it all away and give them just enough to keep them coming back for more...Why do women stay then? Claudia has provided me with a good answer in her latest blog post, featuring my painting The Seducer, based on her novel by the same name. It’s because within us, someplace, somehow,
there’s an insatiable longing for love. I encourage you to read it here:
http://fineartebooks.wordpress.com/2012/04/04/paola-minekovs-painting-for-the-seducer-a-novel/
The Seducer: A Novel is available to order on
Amazon.co.uk
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